Writing a eulogy, tribute or memorial speech has many different themes and
styles. Your eulogy style will depend on who is being remembered and the nature
of their death. Giving a eulogy while coping with the loss of a loved one could
be a very difficult challenge. However, giving a eulogy is also like giving a
tribute to the person you lost.
It is easier to prepare your eulogy if you know what style and theme to follow.
There are different types of eulogy presentation and the most common ways are:
• Chronological or Life History – this type of eulogy presentation talks about
the person’s life, awards and achievements. You talk about their experiences,
share anecdotes from their journal that remind you of the person. This could be
factual and may allow you to distance yourself from the grieving emotion you are
feeling at the moment.
• Shared Memories – these are your personal recollections. This could be easier
to write but the hardest type of eulogy to present because this is based on your
personal memories. You are not only talking about the deceased, but you may also
be exposing yourself to the pain of losing a loved one.
• Tribute – this form is usually used in obituaries in the newspaper. This type
of eulogy focuses on the achievements and accomplishments of the person you
• Legacy – this type of eulogy allows you to focus on the achievements or
projects that person is leaving behind; it could be his family, his profession
or a project that he has undertaken.
• Using Main Points – this is the most common way of making not just a eulogy,
but any kind of speeches. You choose major points about the person’s life and
use this to highlight your thoughts. Summarize the points you used in the
entirety of your speech upon the conclusion of your eulogy.
• Special Theme – there are different themes or concepts that you may use in the
preparation of the eulogy: religious, musical, humorous, toasts, or given for
Religious themes are often given in religious funerals. A eulogy using musical
theme combines music and words in celebrating the person’s life. This is a
moving memorial because the music used is usually a reminder of your loss.
Including humorous speech in your eulogy, you need to be sensitive to the type
of audience you have and the deceased being remembered.
Funeral directors, clergies or parish priests are sometimes asked to deliver a
eulogy during the funeral service about the person they did not know. They need
to make a research as to the person’s life, how they died, and their
achievements and about their family.
Giving a toast during a funeral service is remembering the deceased in a brief
and inspiring way.
No matter what type of theme or style you use, the purpose of giving a eulogy is
sharing a person’s life in one single speech. It is important to touch upon the
life and the after life of the deceased. Involve your audience emotionally.
Don’t worry if you need to shed tears during your delivery, it is likely that
everybody listening were crying too.